Sorting

I just finished talking to a friend and it was worth to listen to. I learned a lot and trying to undertand some points of views. Yes, and i truly understand all the doubts and speculations but tolerating it is not my type. I have to do something because silence can prolong the issue to heal. As of now i am just waiting the right time. (hope not too late).
Got an email from Y360 team that soon it will be closed. I have tons of blogs on there so i better start copying them all and move to my blog site. While scrolling all of my blogs it brought back the memories of how i felt that time when i wrote those. And then i came to a blog that feels me like flying without wings, ha ha ha.Then another page touched me. I poured out lots of emotions on that certain topic. Another one it talks about friendship and so on and so forth…so i’d like to share this blog i had. I researched it before maybe could help in some ways……………………….
Are your friends with people that constantly drain your energy, in both obvious and subtle ways? Several types of people will exhaust you or deter you from your path of extreme self-care.
The BlamerThis is a person who consistently blames you and/or everyone else for her problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person, and instead of taking responsibility for her life, she’d rather blame others.
The ComplainerThis person likes to hear her own voice. She constantly complains about what isn’t working in her life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping her frustrations on you.
The DrainerThis is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice, or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation.
The Shamer
This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. She often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that her criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who make you question your own sanity before hers.
The DiscounterThis is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.
The GossipThis person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest “scoop.” By gossiping about others, she creates a lack of safety in her relationships, whether she realizes it or not. After all, if she’ll talk about someone else, she’ll talk about you.
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The Developer
Your best friend will always be the person who brings out the very best in you. Developer friends will bring the gift of encouragement and bring out the very best..

The Designer
We tend to think of mentors as a personal, hands-on coach. The Latin and Greek define them more as “advisors” or “wise men.”
The designer mentors us in our marriage, ministry, child-rearing, civic involvement, business acumen, or any area where we need a model. Designer mentors may live near or far, be acquaintances or strangers, or may even be dead. They “design” our lives through Scripture, books, tapes, articles, or seminars.
The Disturber
We need friends who will shake up our status quo. Disturbers ask us difficult questions, forcing us to take a closer look at motivations and ambitions. Disturbers know when we have retreated into our comfort zones, and they call us out to greater effectiveness. God uses disturbers in our lives to become the object of greater force that breaks inertia and propels us to greater achievement.
A biblical picture of a disturber is in Deuteronomy 32:11. In this passage the mother eagle tears up the soft nest to reveal sharp thorns that bring discomfort to the eaglets. Because of discomfort, the eaglets leave the nest and learn to fly. The mother develops her young by repeatedly pushing them out of the nest and catching them until they become skilled flyers. Eagles were never meant to stay in the nest and neither were we. The disturber pushes us to learn to fly.
The Discerner
In a lifetime of relationships, perhaps only a handful of people are willing to play this vital role because it requires mutual vulnerability. More popularly known as accountability partners, discerners bring the gift of spiritual insight into our lives. They know how to speak the truth in love. They know how to exhort and rebuke, seeking to keep their friend on the right track. They are also vulnerable—the true friends who will walk into the room of your life while everyone else is walking out.
Proverbs 27:6 reads, “The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy are excessive.” Always be slow in choosing your discerners and even slower in leaving them.
Choose which one is you…HHmmm ..
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A Simple Friend vs. A Real Friend vs. A Trini Friend

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears.
A TRINI FRIEND CAUSE DE DAMN TEARS IN DE FIRST PLACE

A simple friend doesn’t know your parent’s first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.
A TRINI FRIEND KNOW WHERE DEY LIVIN’, WHAT DEY COOKIN’ ON
WHAT DAY AND WILL SHOW UP AT THEIR DOORSTEPS
A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and clean
A TRINI FRIEND COME LATE, BRING A SET OF PEOPLE AND THEN
TALK ABOUT YOU WHEN ALL DE FOOD AND BOOZE DONE
A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone
to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.
A TRINI FRIEND SCREENIN’ DE CALL AND DON’T ANSWER WHEN IS
YOU
A simple friend seeks to talk with you about their problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.
A TRINI FRIEND WILL LISTEN TO YOUR PROBLEMS AND CRY WITH YOU, EVEN OFFER TO HELP YOU, THEN TELL EVERYBODY AND ADD A LITTLE MORE JUICE TO THE STORY
A simple friend wonders about your romantic history,
A real friend could blackmail you with it.
A TRINI FRIEND WILL BLACKMAIL YOU AND STILL TELL EVERYBODY
A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.
OH GOSH…
A TRINI FRIEND OPEN YUH FRIDGE, CLEAN IT OUT,
COMPLAIN YUH AIN’T HAVE ENOUGH, THEN
TELL DE WHOLE NEIGHBOURHOOD DEY MOUTH WAS DRY
A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend knows that it’s not a friendship until after you’ve had a fight.
A TRINI FRIEND TELLS EVERYBODY HE IS DONE WITH YOU
AND TELLS THEM DOH TALK TO YOU AND SHOW UP IN
YOUR HOUSE WITH BIG HUG AND TING
A simple friend expects you to be always there for them.
A real friend expects to be always there for you!
A TRINI FRIEND WILL SAY HE DOING SOMETHING REAL IMPORTANT
AND WILL CALL BACK, NEXT THING YOU HEAR, HE REALLY WAS GOING TO THE ANCHORAGE FETE.

A simple friend will read and throw this letter away.
A real friend will keep sending it until he’s sure it’s been received.
A TRINI FRIEND WILL SAY…WHAT CRAP IS THIS?? SHE IDLE OR
WHAT?…AH LIE???